Mended: Week 2


Hi Friends. It’s Ashleigh again.

Well, Week 1 in our discussions of Mended: Pieces of a Life Made Whole started off slow. Really slow. My hope is that we’ll gain momentum with each week. So if you’ve yet to comment, jump in.

This week we read the chapters “Crucified by Love,” “Why Weren’t You Moses,” and “The Scarlet Cord.” My favorite of the three was “Why Weren’t You Moses.”


Because, well, I have what Angie addresses in this chapter — a comparison problem. If you want to know just how bad it’s been, read my article “Lie to Me” from a few years back.

It isn’t constant. And it’s certainly much better than it was five years ago, or even three when I wrote about it. But it’s still there, rearing its ugly head at the most inopportune times. I won’t bore you with those details, though.

These words from Angie stood out to me:

There will be no measuring stick when we see our Savior face to face. I have images of apologizing to Him, fumbling for words as I have tried (no better than a toddling child) to convince Him that I want to be as good as “so and so” or as brave as “so and so.” I am realizing more and more that I am not in charge of how I compare to anyone else. I need not look at my failings and others’ successes, imagining that I have failed the Lord or disappointed Him. What a waste it is to watch each other and long for what others have, how they manage to do it all so well, and why in the world we can’t get our act together enough to be as good at having a quiet time or so ruthlessly capable of memorizing Scripture.

Yes, what a waste. And I want to stop wasting.

I love Angie’s suggestion to create a tangible reminder to help stop these thoughts. I’m still determining what that will be. Have any of you done this? If so, please share what your tangible reminder is.

OK, your turn. Which chapter was your favorite and why?

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Ashleigh Slater is the author of Team Us: Marriage Together and the editor of Ungrind. As a regular contributor at several blogs and websites, she loves to unite the power of a good story with biblical truth and practical application to encourage others. She has 20 years of writing experience and a master’s degree in communication. Ashleigh lives in Atlanta with her husband Ted and four daughters. You can follow her on Instagram here.

  • Gayle

    Hi Ashleigh and Friends,
    I found the book club post and my book arrived Friday. Catching up this week and encouraged and inspired by the message of what I’ve read so far. I hope to contribute more as we journey though together in God’s grace and mercy.

    • Gayle, I’m so glad you’re joining our discussion! Looking forward to hearing your thoughts as we read.

      • Hi Gayle & Welcome!

        I love the way Angie writes. It’s as if she is just sitting in the room with you and inviting you to peek over her shoulder.

        I’d like to share one “aha” from each chapter that pierced my heart.
        The Crucified By Love chapter spoke volumes to me. I “have the choice to be crucified with Him, or climb down.” Wow. Moment by moment through my day I choose. In my need to be understood. In my desire to do things right. In my need to defend myself. The rungs of my ladder are well worn from climbing down.

        Perhaps I need a ladder of some type in each room in my home to remind me NOT to climb down.

        Angie so beautifully presented the concept of each of us being created by God for His plan. He has written a story for each of us. Yours not being mine – mine not being yours.

        I can clearly hear God asking me – “why were you not Karen?” Will I answer – it was much more important for me to crawl down the ladder to the place that seems more secure for me? Oh LORD help me!

        Oh the gratitude that wells up within my heart as I read of Rahab’s story again and place myself in her shoes. I am very familiar with the need for a scarlet cord. I am filled to overflowing with humility for the gift of being handed the scarlet cord all those years ago. Though I did nothing to deserve it, I was offered the blood of Christ to cleanse me of my sin. All of it. And today I stand white as snow before the King of Kings as He calls me His bride.
        He chose me for His story.
        I was deeply moved at the intimate interaction she described in drawing near to God intentionally as she feels herself wandering from Him.

        I look forward to hearing from others who are joining us for this sweet read.

        • Karen, I love how you said:

          Moment by moment through my day I choose. In my need to be understood. In my desire to do things right. In my need to defend myself. The rungs of my ladder are well worn from climbing down.

          This is something I’m going to carry with me today. I’ve already felt posed to climb down on several occasions and it’s only 9 a.m. But climbing down is never worth it in the long run.

          • No…it always it appears it will be worth it…but it never is.

  • Kelly

    Just read your Lie to Me article. So encouraging to me right now. Thank you

    • Kelly, I’m so glad it was encouraging. Honestly, sometimes I have to go back and re-read it to remind myself of previous lessons God has taught me and I still fail to fully learn.

      • Love that you go back and re-read. I often do that with my journaling. I call it tracing the hand of God. How often we forget what He has taught us.

  • After reading through Karen’s “aha” moments, I went back and read through the chapter “Crucified by Love” again. This paragraph from Angie hit home as I look back at two years that included a miscarriage, two job losses, a house that refused to sell for nine months and resulted in financial issues:

    He beckons each of us to nestle deep into the brokenness and find inexplicable comfort. He woos us to touch His bleeding side so we will know that we are not alone. I can tell you that I have done this, and I have been rescued from a pit so deep I could not fathom a way out of it.

    It makes me think back to a conversation I had with our worship pastor’s wife during a visit to Colorado. After I caught her up on our circumstances since moving away, she asked me, “Do you still love Jesus? Do you and Ted still love each other?” I nodded, “Yes.” She responded, “Then you are doing well.” All of these circumstances and griefs that could have drive us away from Jesus, instead pushed us closer to Him and made me increasingly aware of His goodness in the midst of hardship.

    • Beautiful. Simple, yet profound question she asked of you.

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Mended: Week 2

by Ashleigh Slater time to read: 1 min