Mended: Week 4


Hi Friends. It’s Ashleigh again.

We are on Week 4 in our discussions of Mended: Pieces of a Life Made Whole. If you have yet to comment, it’s not too late. The way this book is structured, you can comment at any point. So if you’ve yet to share your thoughts, jump in.

Our readings this week are “The Sea and the Scarf,” “The Glorious Hem,” and “Worth More Than Diamonds.” Each of the chapters “spoke” to me in some way, but in my notes I want to focus on “The Sea and the Scarf.” As I read this portion, I thought of my friend Julie.

Julie is the kind of person who’s not afraid to enter into others’ pain or grief or messiness. She’s honest and raw and genuine. When she speaks of my kids, she remembers them all — not simply the ones living on this side of heaven — by name. And as Angie’s Ellie offered her love and friendship to the woman battling cancer, I imagined one of Julie’s sweet, tenderhearted daughters doing the same. Julie — who knows deep personal grief — is teaching her children well.

She inspires me, and I have no doubt others, to take the plunge. In those moments when I’m tempted to separate and protect myself from those in pain, which is something Angie notes is common (she draws that from a Beth Moore study), I sometimes think of Julie.

I’d venture to guess she and Angie would get along well.

What about you? What did these chapters bring to mind? How did they challenge you in some way?

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Ashleigh Slater is the author of Team Us: Marriage Together and the editor of Ungrind. As a regular contributor at several blogs and websites, she loves to unite the power of a good story with biblical truth and practical application to encourage others. She has 20 years of writing experience and a master’s degree in communication. Ashleigh lives in Atlanta with her husband Ted and four daughters. You can follow her on Instagram here.

  • Ashleigh,

    Thank you for sharing Julie’s impact on your life. Thank you also for sharing the link to he piece she wrote sharing her story…her heartache through loss and continued celebration and remembrance.

    Of the chapters we read this last week, the Angie had me from the first few words of “The Glorious Hem”. I too “view life as photographs”.

    Perhaps at times I hold too tightly to those photographs. My parents were divorced before I was four years old. My father remarried when I was five. My mother remarried before my tenth birthday. With custody issues stretching out for years, as a little girl I longed to build memories of hope and belonging. By the time I married at age twenty, I realized there was no real trail of photographic storytelling of my childhood. When my first child was born it was my grandparents who provided snapshots of childhood moments caught from behind the lens.

    Because of my need to hold to things that are precious to me, I think in snapshots. It only takes a minute for me to remember the picture of me sitting by my son’s hospital bed crocheting an afghan I had just started before he had his motorcycle accident. Looking back I can see how God gave me the gift of that afghan for such a time as He knew it would bring me comfort.

    Angie’s moments of realization that the God of the universe was speaking to her caused me to stop and take a deep breath. She spoke so beautifully about the need to return to a posture of listening. Too often I let my own thoughts carry me away. I hold so tightly, fearing if I let go of control or let go of a tangible token of remembrance it will somehow invalidate the moment. I’ve been challenged by Angie to be still enough to let God speak to me in those moments.

    And then again as I turned the pages to the “Worth More Than Diamonds” chapter, again God tied a beautiful bow around the point He was making for me to be still enough to posture myself before Him. It is when I am still before God that I view my value and worth as coming only from Him. From that posture I can see as He intends me to see. Unafraid of letting go of my need to hold so tightly. Sounds a little funny…huh?

    I love Angie’s heart to be so real with God. Inviting us to listen in.

    I would love to hear from more readers.

  • Please, please, please…share your thoughts ladies!

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Mended: Week 4

by Ashleigh Slater time to read: 1 min