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Reshaping It All: Book Club Intro



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Hi Friends. Ashleigh here.

On February 23rd, we launch our Ungrind Book Club. A friend and fellow writer suggested the idea to me a couple months ago.

A book club fits Ungrind’s purpose perfectly. It’s our desire to churn out weekly encouragement that helps you, as Colossians 1:10 says, “to walk in a manner worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to Him, bearing fruit in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of Him.” A great way to do this is to engage with one another in discussion.

Our first selection is Reshaping It All: Motivation for Physical and Spiritual Fitness by Candace Cameron Bure with Darlene Schacht.

A friend from church mentioned this book to me recently. After hearing her thoughts on it, I knew I needed to read it. And, as I did, I realized it was a resource I wanted to share with all of you.

In the coming months, we’ll explore together how we can have “a healthier lifestyle by moving faith to the forefront, making some wise fundamental choices, and finding [our] worth in the eyes of God.” I’m excited about all we’ll learn in the pages of this book.

To find out more about Reshaping It All, here’s a promo:

To join our book club, simply purchase a copy of the book and participate on our site. We’ll post thoughts and questions each week. The book is available in Paperback and Kindle.

Here are the dates each chapter discussion starts. Watch for our posts on these dates.

  • Chapter 1: February 23rd
  • Chapter 2: February 28th
  • Chapter 3: March 1st
  • Chapter 4: March 6th
  • Chapter 5: March 8th
  • Chapter 6: March 13th
  • Chapter 7: March 15th
  • Chapter 8: March 20th
  • Chapter 9: March 22nd
  • Chapter 10: March 27th
  • Chapter 11: March 29th
  • Chapter 12: April 3rd
  • Chapter 13: April 5th
  • Chapter 14: April 10th
  • Chapter 15: April 12th
  • Chapter 16: April 17th
  • Chapter 17: April 19th
  • Chapter 18: April 24th
  • Chapter 19: April 26th
  • Wrap Up: May 1st

To kick off our book club, we have three copies of Reshaping It All to give away. Thank you to B&H Publishing Group and Darlene Schacht for providing them. To enter for a chance to win one:

  • Leave a blog comment that answers: What do I hope to learn from this book?

One additional entry can be earned for each of these:

  • Follow @ungrind on Twitter. Leave a comment to tell us you did.
  • Tweet about this contest and book club. Leave a comment to tell us you did.
  • “Like” this post on Facebook.
  • “Like” our page on Facebook.
  • Use the box on the top of the sidebar on this page to subscribe to our email updates. Leave a comment to tell us you did.
  • Grab our Ungrind button from our sidebar and add it to your blog. Leave a comment with a link to your blog so we can visit.

This contest closes on Monday, February 13, 2012, at 12 a.m. Our apologies to our international readers, but it’s only open to those residing in the United States and Canada.

Thank you to everyone who entered! We’ve chosen our winners using’s Integer Generator. Congratulations to Thea, Stephanie, and Katie.

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Ashleigh Slater is the author of Team Us: Marriage Together and the editor of Ungrind. As a regular contributor at several blogs and websites, she loves to unite the power of a good story with biblical truth and practical application to encourage others. She has 20 years of writing experience and a master’s degree in communication. Ashleigh lives in Atlanta with her husband Ted and four daughters. You can follow her on Instagram here.

  • Erin

    I’d love to learn to have a better relationship with my body.

    • Michelle

      I have had a difficulty finding the motivation needed to do what I know has to be done to achieve better health for myself, this book would be a blessing..

  • Erin

    I follow on Twitter.

  • Erin

    I get email updates.

  • Joanne Viola

    I hope to learn to just be healthy. And to appreciate my body more.

  • Joanne Viola

    I follow on twitter.

  • Cheryl

    I want to be a healthy example to my kids so they don’t have a battle like I have had. I want to finally be free of my yo-yo life and be happy with my body.

  • Cheryl

    I “liked” your FB page

  • Cheryl

    I liked this post on FB! :)

  • Mary Frantz

    I decided to read this book as a part of my search this year to find God’s purpose. Not my purpose, but His purpose. Looking forward to learning some great lessons. Mary

  • Just what I’m looking for-to be spiritually and physically ready!

  • I liked your fb page!

  • I liked this post on fb.

  • Amy

    Okay, I’ve liked the post, liked the page, followed on twitter, and grabbed your button! I would LOVE this book (and when you’re in ministry, every free thing helps….) This book would be a great encouragment for where i am right now. Thanks for sharing!!! Would love to join the book club!

  • I want to learn how to live a healthier life , so that I may serve my family better.

    • Congratulations, Thea! You are one of our winners! I’ll be sending you an email soon.

  • I want to learn how to live a healthier , fuller, and more motivated life, so that I may serve my family better.

  • I subscribe to your emails! Love them!

  • Shannon

    I hope to learn more about re-shaping my life to become more balanced. Thank you!

  • Shannon

    And… I just subscribed to your e-mail updates- thanks again!

  • I hope to learn how to be more accountable to friends in my life and how to achieve a healthier lifestyle.

  • Following @ungrind on twitter!

  • Stephanie panetta

    I may not have kids but what I would like to learn in this book is how to balance a busy career by keeping a focus in my life on family and friends and how to keep my body and mind in a healthy positive place

    • Congrats Stephanie! You are one of our winners. I’ll be sending you an email soon.

  • Lindsey

    I would love to read this book to help with my body and soul!!! I also liked your fb page and your comment. I also started to follow you. Thanks for the chance to win

  • As a newly-wed bride, I have been struggling with how I look as a future-pastor’s wife (my husband is in Divinity School now). I have been big for most of life and cannot seem to find the inner peace that God’s Holy Word speaks of. I am hoping to find a clue to reaching that inner peace when I read Candace’s book. I want to be at peace with myself (mind, body and soul) in order to do great things for our Lord. I do not have a copy and would love to win it!

  • JS731

    I want to win this book for my mom because she’s struggled a lot with her weight and is not motivated at all to get in shape and I know she’ll benefit greatly from this book because we’re Christians as well. I really hope I win, I know she’ll love this book!

  • I followed you on Twitter and tweeted about you and Candace! Thank you for the opportunity to win this book!

  • I have also liked your page and post about this comment on Facebook!

  • Katie

    I hope to learn about finding more satisfaction in God than in food and how to take my responsibility of caring for my body as seriously as God does.

  • Katie

    I follow @ungrind on Twitter

    • Congrats Katie! You are one of our winners. I’ll be sending you an email soon.

  • Kelly

    I simply want to get healthy in a healthy manner, not starving myself, not neglecting the mental and spiritual health that should go hand in hand with physical health. P.s. I followed @ungrind on twitter. So nice to find positive inspirational sites:)

  • Sascha

    I’d love to learn about keeping food in perspective with God’s word.

  • Sascha

    I follow on twitter!

  • Shanda Snead

    Looking forward to participating in the book while taking care of my spiritual and physical health. I’m inspired by Candace and look forward to going on this journey with others.

  • R. Boilard

    I would like to learn how to lose weight and keep it off once and for all.

  • Robyn

    I want to learn how to be healthy spiritually and physically. I want to be a good example for my children. I need to change ‘me’ so I can be that example that I want to be for them. I’m a single parent and don’t want to play the single parent card but I am soley responsible for them. I need to be the best ‘me’ I can be for them. Thank you!

  • Jennifer Graham

    I just subscribed via email!

    I liked your fb post via Time-Warp Wife!

    And reading other’s stories are inspirational and motivational to me!

  • Lindseyz

    I’d love to learn to really stick to some exercise :)

  • I would love to read this book! I am going through some health issues and wanting to get in better tune with my body and get healthy! God Bless you!

  • I’m always looking for ways to tie spiritual and physical wellness together.

  • How to better Glorify God with my temple.

  • jennifer

    I love how this talks about spiritual and physical health

  • Tammy

    Definately ready for the book club! Now to get the book. Headed to Twitter to follow

  • Melissa N.

    I hope to learn how to lose weight and love myself.

  • Elaine H

    I have struggled with weight most of my life and would love to find the right motivation for keeping it off this time. I know that all things are possible through God but I also need the discipline to stick with things.

  • Elaine H

    I have subscribed.

  • Amber Berry

    I want to be healthier, not just physically but mentally and spiritually as well.

  • Amber Berry

    I liked this post on FB

  • I just posted on my blog about your giveaway. This giveaway, whether I win or not, has just been a confirmation of how important it is that I stay healthy for my family. God’s plans are not my own! Amen.

  • christy

    Hello…I would love to win a copy of this book. I suffer from severe depression and anxiety since the age of 15 . I am now 33..I try to stay strong in faith but during hard times I find myself waivering…I do not want to waiver anymore..I want to get even stronger in my faith. I have gained a lot of weight recently .. I would love this book as I feel it would help teach and motivate me…

  • christy

    I subscribed to the emails…followed on twitter..don’t have fb account or I would like it. Going to tweet now about contest!!!

  • You are on my blog,, and I have subscribed to your emails. I think that’s everything now!

  • Christine Taggart

    I would love to win this book so that I can start to transform my life!

  • Mary

    I’d love to join in with this…almost bought this book last weekend! Will run out and get it tomorrow!

  • Nancy

    I have the book and have read it 3 times. This has been a life changing time for me. I have changed my way of eating as well as getting god to help me through my journey. Thank you Candace for this amazing book.

  • Heather Miller

    I just bought the book and am very excited to start “being the best me.”


When Doing Justly, Loving Mercy, and Walking Humbly Stand at Odds

If your compassion far exceeds your capacity, here’s one way you can be sure to do justly, love mercy, and walk humbly.



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One of my life verses is Micah 6:8, “He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?”

It is one of my favorite verses because my heart has been so moved by the love Jesus has for me and the sacrifice He made for me that I am grateful to have a way to express my gratitude through acts of justice and mercy while walking humbly with God.

I have found at times, however, the call to do justice and love mercy come in conflict with the call to walk humbly with God. For me, one of the ways to walk humbly with God is to recognize my limitations. I have to put skin to the fact that I am not God which means saying, “no” to ministry requests. It means going to sleep when I could be spending time advocating for the harrowed and helpless in the world. It means limited seats at my table, limited funds in my bank account, and limited energy in my body cannot be ignored but respected and adhered to.

This is hard for me at times, especially when I scroll my Facebook feed and see friends who are caring for their really sick children, spouse, or other family member all while millions of refugees flee war torn countries and babies are slaughtered by the hundreds each day in our country through the abortion industry.

As I scroll, I receive texts about one family member’s surgery gone wrong and another family member announcing a new baby is on the way. I have in mind my neighbor who has inpatient surgery scheduled this week and another neighbor who is trying to hold down a full-time job, care for twins all while battling profound “morning” sickness.

Folks at church are fighting for their lives in physical and spiritual ways, and strangers who pass me on the road are clearly battling something as demonstrated by their impatient honking because I won’t take a right turn on red. I want to meet the needs of all; I want to do justice and love mercy, but I’m daily confronted by the fact that I am so limited.

What am I to do when doing justly and/or loving mercy seem to come in conflict with walking humbly with my God?

God keeps bringing me to this answer: prayer.

God invites us to cast our cares before Him because He cares for us.
God tells us to be anxious for nothing BUT WITH PRAYER present our requests before Him.
God commands us to pray without ceasing.

And, when I walk humbly with God, I see the immense kindness in His command.
He gives us a way to do justly, love mercy WHILE walking humbly with Him.
It is by praying without ceasing.

I cannot take a meal or give money to every sick person or family I know. I cannot extend kindness to all my neighbors all at the same time they’re in need nor conjure up sustainable solutions for the refugee crisis and contact all the necessary world powers to make it happen.

I cannot heal all, but I know the Healer.

I cannot provide for all the needs, but I know the Provider.

I cannot rescue everyone in need, but I know the Rescuer.

I cannot comfort all the broken, but I know the Comforter.

I cannot speak peace over every situation, but I know the Prince of Peace.

I cannot be all to all, but I can go to the Great I Am through prayer, lay all the people, problems and pleas for help before the Omniscient and Omnipresent God of all Creation.

I can do this through prayer.

Recently, via an Instagram contest of all things, I came upon A–Z prayer cards designed by blogger/author/speaker, Amelia Rhodes. It is a simple concept packed with a powerful prayer punch. It has served me personally in this tension of wanting to do far more than I practically can do. It provides prayer prompts starting with each letter of the alphabet along with a scripture that coincides with the prayer focus. It ranges from Adoption to a creative “Zero Prejudice” for the letter “Z.”

The cards are well thought out, color printed on sturdy cardstock with blank lines for the user to write in the names of people and/or organizations that are personal to them.

If, like me, your compassion far exceeds your capacity, pick up a set of these prayer cards and unload your burdens onto a God whose competence matches His kindness, both boundless.

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Facing Our Fears in Motherhood

Do you have fears tied to motherhood? If so, here’s encouragement for you.



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“Are you scared?”

I was taken aback by his question. Scared? Of what?

“Of anything,” he answered.

I had just shared my due date with a new class of trainees.

“He has three boys,” another new hire volunteered. So fear is to be expected, I reasoned. I’m just about to face the most frightening experience in my life.

Of course I was scared.

I was scared…

  • I’ll lose my temper.
  • I’ll whine about sleepless nights.
  • I’ll breastfeed too often or not often enough.
  • I’ll leave piles of unfolded onesies in the middle of the nursery floor because I’m too tired (or lazy?) to fold teeny-tiny baby clothes for the upteenth time.
  • I’ll go with disposable diapers when the better choice would be cloth.
  • I’ll work too many long hours at the office and miss precious moments with her.
  • I’ll sign her up for too many activities and push her to become Miss Achieve-It-All.
  • I’ll pass on to her my ugly pride, self-righteousness, and perfectionism like a dreadful contagious disease.
  • I’ll miss countless little joys in life while pursuing worthless dreams.

Facing Our Fears in MotherhoodIn short… I was afraid I was going to fail miserably as a parent.

And now, holding my second-born daughter in my arms, thinking back on that brief exchange just a few years ago, I realize those fears were well-founded. I’ve failed many times. I’ve lost my temper. I’ve raised my voice. I’ve worked too much and played too little. I’ve seen my own sinfulness reflected in my daughter.

Yes, I’ve failed, but over and above it all, God’s grace has covered my parenting imperfections and made me run to the cross day after day. The writer of Proverbs puts it this way:

Whoever fears the LORD has a secure fortress, and for their children it will be a refuge.
Proverbs 14:26

When it comes to fears, we have two choices: Will we fear the unknown or will we fear the Lord? Will we allow the uncertain to grip us in its clutch or will we turn to God’s Truth to set us free?

Scared? Oh yeah. There was so much to be scared of that day. And even now, if I’m completely honest, there are still fears nibbling at the edges of my consciousness. Fear that we won’t outgrow the temper tantrums. Fear that the two girls won’t get along. Fear that I’ll mess them up and cause them interminable hours on a psychologist’s couch.

I’m sure you have fears, too.

But rather than allow those fears to consume and paralyze us, we can take them to the Lord, acknowledging His sovereignty over our parenting, pleading His grace over our mistakes, and entrusting His provision over their futures. He is not only able to handle it all — He is far more capable to be trusted with it all.

If I say one thing to that frightened 9-month-pregnant me standing in that room years ago, I would say this: Don’t let fear rob today’s joy with tomorrow’s unknowns. Each day has enough worries of its own (Matthew 6:34).

Instead, let us keep seeking God, running to Him as our secure fortress and resting in the knowledge that He will care for us and our children one day at a time.

What are you scared of today? Name your fears and bring them to the Lord, allowing Him to replace them with His peace that passes all understanding.

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He Gives Shade To The Weary

If anxiety is a struggle for you right now, remember that He gives shade to the weary.



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Do you ever have those moments of fear because you don’t know what lies ahead? When do those thoughts tend to happen to you?

For me, most of those thoughts happen when I lay my head down to sleep at night. The vulnerability comes forth every time. That’s what happened the other night to me. I shut my eyes and immediately anxiety welled up inside me.

What if we don’t succeed in this new venture? What if we have to move? What if we can’t pay our bills?

I laid there with the covers drawn tight over my head (I still think that I am safer if the covers are over my head), praying scripture over my anxious heart. Assuring myself that God sees me and that He cares.

In the morning, I turned to Isaiah 41, specifically verses 10-20.

“Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10, NASB)

Yesterday, the “what if’s” piled up as I anxiously looked about me. My daughter needs tutoring, however at this point in life, tutoring feels like a luxury we can’t afford. So I listed some items online to sell hoping to make just enough to cover the tutoring. I’m buying groceries on a Visa reward card. I’m holding my breath until the next paycheck comes. But what did God speak over me: Do not fear. Do not look anxiously about you.

“For I am the Lord your God, who upholds your right hand, Who says to you, ‘Do not fear, I will help you.’ Do not fear, you worm Jacob, you men of Israel; I will help you,” declares the Lord, “and your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel.” (Isaiah 41:13-14 NASB)

Why shouldn’t I be anxious? Because God will hold me up. God will help me. When I first read the word “worm” as a description, I took it as a slam against Israel. Like, gesh, God. What animal does He relate me to? But through further study, He calls them a worm because worms are helpless. They are viewed as insignificant, despised and weak. God will help me — seemingly insignificant, helpless me — because He is my Redeemer. He is my go’el — my next of kin. The Redeemer is the one who provides for all my needs. Rent. Car payment. Credit card bill. Gas. Food. Clothes. Debt. God will redeem.

He Gives Shade to the Weary

“Behold, I have made you a new, sharp threshing sledge with double edges; You will thresh the mountains and pulverize them, And will make the hills like chaff. You will winnow them, and the wind will carry them away, And the storm will scatter them; But you will rejoice in the Lord, You will glory in the Holy One of Israel.” (Isaiah 41:15-16 NASB).

God is transforming me from a helpless one to a powerful one. The description of that type of threshing sledge is like a modern day earth mover. Powerful. Strong. Immovable.

“The afflicted and needy are seeking water, but there is none, And their tongue is parched with thirst; I, the Lord, will answer them Myself, As the God of Israel I will not forsake them.” (Isaiah 41:17, NASB)

He will come to our rescue. God, Himself, will answer you and me. Can you hear how personal that sounds? Have you ever pleaded with someone important whether your boss, public figure, or even a parent, and they responded to the need themselves? You expected for them to send their assistant, but instead they — the most important one — responded to you.

“I will open rivers on the bare heights And springs in the midst of the valleys; I will make the wilderness a pool of water And the dry land fountains of water. I will put the cedar in the wilderness, The acacia and the myrtle and the olive tree; I will place the juniper in the desert Together with the box tree and the cypress.” (Isaiah 41:18-19, NASB)

This passage describes the wilderness-like times in life. You are barren. You are thirsty. You are hot. You are in need. God will provide what you need. God will quench your thirst. He will provide shade when you are weary. During those times, God can provide in creative, innovative ways. He can provide something out of nothing. Doesn’t that give you great hope? Even when you can’t answer how He will do it, He is creative enough to figure it out even when the odds are stacked against you.

“That they may see and recognize, And consider and gain insight as well, That the hand of the Lord has done this, And the Holy One of Israel has created it.” (Isaiah 41:20 NASB).

God will do all of this so that His glory will be put on display. People — including yourself — will see that He is powerful.

So you can see how after a night of wrestling with fear and anxiety, reading this was like shade and water for my soul. God is a god who sees. And God is a god who acts on your behalf.

What do you need His help with today? What are you fearful about today? What keeps you awake at night? Where do you need some shade?

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Reshaping It All: Book Club Intro

by Ashleigh Slater time to read: 2 min