Reshaping It All: Chapter 14


Hi Friends! Ashleigh here.

We’re in the final weeks of our Reshaping It All: Motivation for Physical and Spiritual Fitness book club selection. Today we start our discussion on chapter 14.

If you’ve fallen behind, we’re also still talking about the previous chapters here — so keep those comments coming. I’ve missed hearing from many of you and would love to have you jump back in.

In chapter 14, I was convicted immediately. Candice shares, “I love food. I love the smell, I love the taste, I love the variety.”

Me too.

She goes on to say, “But I think we all have to come to terms with the fact that first and foremost, food is fuel for our bodies. Let’s get the entertainment aspect of it out of our heads for a minute and realize that it doesn’t have to be a 24-7 buffet.”


This is where I struggle — or perhaps resist — to make the leap. Admitting and accepting that food is primarily fuel, leaves me feeling robbed; robbed of those justifications I make for each time I overindulge. Yet, I realize it’s a leap I need to make or I’m going to continue to fail at my attempts to lose this pesky baby weight. Because while my clothes are fitting better due to my increased exercise, every day is a battle in which I most often surrender to my fleshly desires — you know, things like that leftover cheesecake in the fridge.

Let’s hear from Darlene:

In chapter 14, Candace teaches us the art of dining out. Why? Because parties, barbecues, family gatherings, special holidays, church potlucks, business luncheons, and restaurant outings happen — often.

The thing is, that those of us who struggle with appetite control will use these occasions as another excuse to over indulge instead of living moderately and making wise choices that improve our health.

Candace writes:

Eating well shouldn’t stop when you leave the house. In fact restaurants offer us the perfect opportunity to make a good choice. We are so used to pampering our passion instead of looking at food as fuel that we make the wrong choice time and again. If we start training ourselves to be content with the food we require, whether that food is a salad or a steak, we begin to grow into healthy, mature eaters.”

With summer around the corner many of you will be taking family vacations in which you find yourself eating out more often than you usually do. This is a chance to practice making wise choices, instead of going the route you normally would.

Those who do choose healthy alternatives are the first ones to tell you that they have come to enjoy the taste, and I trust you will too!

Enjoy the journey, and until next time, live well!!

Darlene Schacht

What about you?

  1. What practical tips for dining out did you find most helpful?
  2. Have you accepted food as primarily fuel? If so, how have you been able to make this “leap”?
  3. Do you agree that the “entertainment” aspect of eating contributes to overeating? If so, why or why not?
  4. What stood out the most to you in this chapter?
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Ashleigh Slater is the author of Team Us: Marriage Together and the editor of Ungrind. As a regular contributor at several blogs and websites, she loves to unite the power of a good story with biblical truth and practical application to encourage others. She has 20 years of writing experience and a master’s degree in communication. Ashleigh lives in Atlanta with her husband Ted and four daughters. You can follow her on Instagram here.

  • Kerrye

    I really needed to hear that it is OK to attend a party or other food event and not participate. We often get invited to things where there are simply no healthy options. My first reaction is to hide away from it at home, but that’s not always the best choice. I’m learning how to be at a family fish fry, or church icecream social, or whatever, not give in but not be the sour faced party pooper either… Eating at restaurants are still tough, even with better options I still drool over my old unhealthy favorites and feel a little sad…

  • I have found that my favorite tips when dining out are: (1) Go straight to the “heart healthy section” –salads, veggie platters, or I get the protein and instead of fries or baked potato, I get the veggies. (2.) Portion control- eat until I am satisfied and take the rest home for lunch the next day.

    Food was always a pleasure for me growing up, don’t shoot me, but I never had a weight problem, even now it is not an issue. However, I am an emotional non-eater. If I am angry or depressed I will skip food. NOT GOOD! Because when I am hungry, my evil twin appears!!! So, I decided to try clean eating and that has been helpful to my moods and general well-being. Now that I see food as fuel to keep me energized and focused, then I am a better person for EVERYONE!

    I cannot afford the higher end restaurants that serve “healthier” options, but I am wiser about which “fast food” place I might visit.

    I like what Candace says at the end of this chapter, “… regardless of where you are or what you are given, YOU have the option to make good choices for your health. “

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Reshaping It All: Chapter 14

by Ashleigh Slater time to read: 2 min