Reshaping It All: Chapter 4


Hi Friends! Ashleigh here.

Today we start our discussion on chapter 4 from Reshaping It All: Motivation for Physical and Spiritual Fitness. We’re still talking about chapters 1, 2, and 3 — so keep those comments coming.

In chapter 4, Candace shares with us the five steps she uses to reach goals.

  1. Envision your goal.
  2. Formulate a plan.
  3. Consider the gain.
  4. Count the cost.
  5. Do the necessary work to achieve it.

I love how practical these steps are, but I admit that I wasn’t able to relate to Candace as well in this chapter. Until now, we’ve shared much common ground – Jesus follower, wife, mom – but here I’m more acutely reminded of her “Hollywood upbringing,” for lack of a better term. For most of us, the hard work needed to earn the money for a SUV would be years, not months. So she lost me a bit with this. I wonder if perhaps a different story would have worked better here.

But, that aside, this is a great chapter.

My favorite part is when Candace addresses what I’ve heard others — such as Money Saving Mom’s Crystal Paine and author Arlene Pellicane — state: the importance of breaking big goals into what Mark Twain called “small manageable ones.” I’ve found this to be helpful in my own life – whether I apply it to keeping my house clean, taking care of a newborn, or meeting multiple writing deadlines.

Before I ask you to weigh in with your thoughts, let’s hear from Darlene.

Since chapter 4 is all about mapping out a “plan,” I hope that you were able to decide on one that you will stick to for life.

When mapping out mine, I consider this verse, “All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any” (1 Corinthians 6:12).

Since God has given us life and the things that pertain to it, it’s OK to enjoy ourselves. The problem resides when we are controlled by those things we enjoy. Take chocolate brownies for instance. There’s nothing wrong with having a little piece every now and then, but if our appetite has control over us to the point where we can’t stop when we know we’ve had enough then our flesh is ruling our spirit. Not good.

Candace encourages us to choose a plan that includes an occasional treat, while our focus is on living a life of moderation that is pleasing to the Lord. This doesn’t mean that we all be a size two, in fact you might be a very healthy size twelve — that’s OK. But I do pray that all of us are seeking to reshape our bodies from the inside out, including an intimate relationship with the Lord.

Enjoy the journey, and until next time, live well!!

Darlene Schacht

OK, here are the questions to start off our chapter 4 discussion:

  • Were you able to relate to Candace in this chapter? Or, did you struggle, as I did?
  • What goal do you hope to attain?
  • What do you hope to gain by reading your goal?
  • What is the cost?
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Ashleigh Slater is the author of Team Us: Marriage Together and the editor of Ungrind. As a regular contributor at several blogs and websites, she loves to unite the power of a good story with biblical truth and practical application to encourage others. She has 20 years of writing experience and a master’s degree in communication. Ashleigh lives in Atlanta with her husband Ted and four daughters. You can follow her on Instagram here.

  • Kerrye

    I did have the nagging idea of “California girl” in my head throughout the book. Not so much the “actor” image, but more the image of California in general. (Like the commercial, they all do yoga, wear bikinis, drive convertables, eat weird health foods…)

    Mapping out a plan… I actually got out a calendar and figured out if I only lost 1 pound a week, that would total 20 pounds by the time my son got out of school for summer. I’ve always aimed for much more loss, more quickly, so this seemed so doable, and helped me relax about it. And refocus on living HEALTHY, rather than losing crazy amounts of weight. With some occasional treats worked in!

    The cost… Well, to be honest, there ARE some big costs. My grocery bill has increased a bit. And I need to shop a bit more often, to keep fresh fruits and vegi’s on hand. My time in the kitchen has increased a bit too – mainly for breakfast and lunch (those were my slacker meals). Less eating out (although a money saver) is considered a cost, to me. And the biggie – the time I’m spending exercising now. It makes me feel so good, but it does take a lot of time out of my busy schedule…

    I had to sit and think about the costs, though. Because, right now I’ve lost some weight and am feeling so much better physically, the costs are taking a back-seat in my mind.

    • Kerrye, I’ve been struggling this week sticking to my plan. Your comment encouraged me BIG time — reading how 1 pound a week would equal 20 by summer. That reminded me how doable losing my extra weight really is.

  • Carla

    I actually could relate to Candace throughout this whole book because I’m from So Cal as well, born and raised in Manhattan Beach/South Bay area, about 40 minutes from Hollywood. It definitely was an advantage to grow up at the beach because the lifestyles are a lot healthier than some, with more opportunities to be active and healthy food options/resturants. And I applaud her parents for teaching her responsibilty- yes it only took a couple of months for her to earn her SUV, but did the work and set a goal and achieved it, a great life lesson! It wasn’t handed to her just because she had the money. My dad was the same way with my brothers and I and I feel it has kept me responsible with how I handle my finances today.
    As for setting the goals, which I have done before, I never sat down and wrote out the gain/costs until now. I took her suggestion and mapped them out. It was very different to see them on paper than to just think of them. I felt it helped me a lot and I have more motivation and faith that I can stick to my goals. But I also learned that besides being consistent, I need to be patient as well. Like Kerrye said, 1 pound a week is a great goal to lose 20 pounds by Summer. But I must remind myself not to get frustrated by week 4 for having lost only 4 pounds. I must keep to my plan and let the work happen, not expect all the results right away. This book has really helped me change the way I view food and exercise, I’m excited for the changes taking place in my life :)

    • Carla, I really appreciate your perspective on how you could relate to Candace throughout the book. You make a great point on how, sure, she may have only worked a few months, but regardless she had to learn how to set a goal and work toward it. And — in the end, she learned that the cost was worth it.

  • I could relate to the concept of her parents making her work for her goal. Being an Army brat and having a strong Dutch mother- nothing was handed to us. So, that part was right up my alley. LOL

    I am struggling with feeling that my weight is ok. I just need to tone and maintain. I am learning to keep my body fueled and energized for the day. I want to make a plan that has small, simple steps.
    I hope to gain wisdom on being able to read the signals my body sends me when it needs more water, veggies, fruit, and protein without eating in a haphazard way. Does that make sense?

    What is the cost?- denying myself the pleasure of being lazy. I sometimes dread going to walk or run, but the feeling afterward is so awesome, and I tell myself out loud– “this feels good!”

    Also, I am a compulsive list maker and the idea of making a plan and crossing things off as I accomplish them sounds pretty amazing!!!!

    Happy eating and reading….see you at the end of Chapter 5!

    • I love that you are making a plan with small, simple steps. How’s it going?

  • Ellison

    I struggled to relate to Cameron this week. I didn’t have close parents who really taught me anything other than what not to do. But I have learned to make a plan and focus on the goal. First up is to lose 20 lbs by the end of April. I have about 15 lbs to go. It’s a little on the high side of weight loss for the time period so I am already focusing on preparing myself that if it’s only 10 more pounds not to get discouraged. I tend to get so focused on the number I ignore what I have already accomplished.

    The cost would be giving up treats like ice cream with my family. They are all fit so they don’t have the problems I do. I am also focusing on the fact the healthy I get the more I can do with them.

    • Ellison, congrats on already losing the 5lbs! Keep up the good work!

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Reshaping It All: Chapter 4

by Ashleigh Slater time to read: 2 min