Be Present: 5 Ways to Maintain Personal Balance

Be Present: 5 Ways to Maintain Personal Balance

I recently stumbled upon a radio podcast entitled “At the Pace of What’s Real” by writer and designer, Grace Bonney. {Any other Design Sponge fans out there?) In light of a recent stress-induced health scare, Bonney discusses the importance of finding personal balance by being “present,” or as I like to call it, “embracing your pace.”

I am faster-paced by nature. I like activity and busy-ness. Like most women, I thrive in multi-tasking, but often at the cost of being fully present in the moment at hand. I find myself checking emails while I should be reading to one of my kids or working on a project at night during the precious few hours I have alone with Clark. Grace specifically challenges small business owners to hone the present by engaging in the current task in order to maintain productive and focused work. But I think her message applies to women whether they are in the work and/or domestic force.

The full podcast is a worthy listen, but here are a few notes that I found particularly insightful. Grace says, “If we are not 100% present … our work suffers.” So, how do we stay engaged in the present routine of building a successful career or a successful family? Here’s what she suggests:

1. Imagine Being “New” at Your Work

What were some of the emotions you felt as a new employee? A new wife? A new mother? Enthusiasm, willingness, creativity, gratitude, vision? The wonder of a new assignment so easily fades over time, but if you can access that “newness” once again, let it be a reminder that you are getting to do what you love.

2. Make Room for Spontaneity

What inspires you? Books, documentaries, outdoor sports, hobbies, art, music? So often I have to pull the plug on a plan for the day in order to take time to re-inspire myself. If I am better connected with the parts of myself that are living fully, I will have a better chance of staying engaged in present tasks and opportunities.

Be Present: 5 Ways to Maintain Personal Balance

3. Be Curious

Remain a student of your spouse, your kids, your craft … yourSELF.

4. Appreciate the Small Stuff

Engaging in the most tedious of work-related tasks (admin., maintenance, planning, etc.) gives you a holistic awareness of your work. Therefore, don’t resent it.

Here’s a little suggestion of my own:

5. Embrace Your Limitations

This one is personally the hardest for me. Staying present requires saying “No” … a lot. Personal interests and opportunities, even some really great ones, come knocking at my door everyday, and I find myself wanting to do it all. But, I am learning to accept that the race can do with one less runner. The stage can do with one less singer. Twitter can do with one less tweet. But my kids only get one mommy. My husband only gets one wife. The sooner I can accept that, the better chance I will have of living fully in my current circumstances. Everything else will just have to wait.

This awareness has been extremely eye-opening for me. How about you? How do you maintain a healthy balance by being “present”?

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Salina Beasley


Salina is a worship leader/songwriter with her husband, Clark. The two spent the early years of their marriage touring with Grammy-Award winning worship leader/songwriter, Matt Redman. They are now living in Atlanta, Georgia, where they enjoy leading worship for their local church. Salina is also a freelance writer and mother of two children. You can follow Salina on twitter @salinabeasley.

  • julieneils

    I’m a Design Sponge fan! Thank you for those great reminders today. Awesome.

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Be Present: 5 Ways to Maintain Personal Balance

by Salina Beasley time to read: 2 min