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Embrace Friendship in Your Marriage

How’s your friendship with your spouse? Would you consider yourselves what Aristotle termed “true friends”?

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It was a fairly simple activity. At least, it should have been.

Our task?

To remember back to the early days of our relationship and share with our church small group the name of “our song” at the time.

The message from our pastor that week had been on marriage. So our discussion that evening followed suit. While Ted and I normally facilitated the conversation, this time we’d asked one of the other couples to. And frankly, they put us to shame. When it comes to small group leading, I want to be them when I grow up.

Unfortunately, when it came to this task, Ted and I had a small problem. We didn’t really have a song back then.

Sure, we both loved music. We even listened to it together. A lot. But we weren’t exactly the type of couple you’d find hitting the dance floor on our evenings out. No, we were more likely to be at the local Italian hole-in-the-wall swapping stories over caprese salad and tiramisu.

Yet, we weren’t going to let this minor issue keep us from participating. While we may not have had a significant “us” tune at the time, what we did have was a first dance at our wedding. Obviously, that dance was accompanied by a song. A song, I’m embarrassed to admit, that was selected by our live musicians, not by us. The thing is, if Ted and I did have “a song,” this one would have to do.

Here’s where we hit a slightly bigger problem, though.

We couldn’t recall its name. Not even after an extensive google search on my iPhone of all big band era songs, which was the style of music we’d had at our reception. I suppose rewinding over eleven years, four little girls, and a handful of states was just more than our memories could handle.

Go ahead, laugh at us. We’ll laugh with you. Ha. There. Let’s continue.

Once we got home, Ted had to pull up the video of our first dance. And there it was. Our song: “I Only Have Eyes for You.” Hours of research, and we finally identified it.

Fortunately, the small group “homework” we were given proved much easier for us. We were asked to decide together what song best describes our marriage now. It took us all of two minutes to pick “You’ve Got a Friend in Me.”

Why’d we go with this song? Well, head over to my personal blog to find out why and to hear one idea for how you can embrace friendship in your marriage.

Embrace Your Marriage

Also, don’t miss my team members’ posts on embracing friendship in marriage. You can find them here:

Ashleigh Slater is the author of the books Braving Sorrow Together: The Transformative Power of Faith and Community When Life is Hard and Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage. With over twenty years of writing experience and a master’s degree in communication, she loves to combine the power of a good story with practical application to encourage and inspire readers. Ashleigh lives in Atlanta with her husband, Ted, and four daughters.

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Embrace Friendship in Your Marriage

by Ashleigh Slater time to read: 2 min