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Reshaping It All: Chapter 14



Hi Friends! Ashleigh here.

We’re in the final weeks of our Reshaping It All: Motivation for Physical and Spiritual Fitness book club selection. Today we start our discussion on chapter 14.

If you’ve fallen behind, we’re also still talking about the previous chapters here — so keep those comments coming. I’ve missed hearing from many of you and would love to have you jump back in.

In chapter 14, I was convicted immediately. Candice shares, “I love food. I love the smell, I love the taste, I love the variety.”

Me too.

She goes on to say, “But I think we all have to come to terms with the fact that first and foremost, food is fuel for our bodies. Let’s get the entertainment aspect of it out of our heads for a minute and realize that it doesn’t have to be a 24-7 buffet.”


This is where I struggle — or perhaps resist — to make the leap. Admitting and accepting that food is primarily fuel, leaves me feeling robbed; robbed of those justifications I make for each time I overindulge. Yet, I realize it’s a leap I need to make or I’m going to continue to fail at my attempts to lose this pesky baby weight. Because while my clothes are fitting better due to my increased exercise, every day is a battle in which I most often surrender to my fleshly desires — you know, things like that leftover cheesecake in the fridge.

Let’s hear from Darlene:

In chapter 14, Candace teaches us the art of dining out. Why? Because parties, barbecues, family gatherings, special holidays, church potlucks, business luncheons, and restaurant outings happen — often.

The thing is, that those of us who struggle with appetite control will use these occasions as another excuse to over indulge instead of living moderately and making wise choices that improve our health.

Candace writes:

Eating well shouldn’t stop when you leave the house. In fact restaurants offer us the perfect opportunity to make a good choice. We are so used to pampering our passion instead of looking at food as fuel that we make the wrong choice time and again. If we start training ourselves to be content with the food we require, whether that food is a salad or a steak, we begin to grow into healthy, mature eaters.”

With summer around the corner many of you will be taking family vacations in which you find yourself eating out more often than you usually do. This is a chance to practice making wise choices, instead of going the route you normally would.

Those who do choose healthy alternatives are the first ones to tell you that they have come to enjoy the taste, and I trust you will too!

Enjoy the journey, and until next time, live well!!

Darlene Schacht

What about you?

  1. What practical tips for dining out did you find most helpful?
  2. Have you accepted food as primarily fuel? If so, how have you been able to make this “leap”?
  3. Do you agree that the “entertainment” aspect of eating contributes to overeating? If so, why or why not?
  4. What stood out the most to you in this chapter?
  5. Spread the love

Ashleigh Slater is the author of the books Braving Sorrow Together: The Transformative Power of Faith and Community When Life is Hard and Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage. With over twenty years of writing experience and a master’s degree in communication, she loves to combine the power of a good story with practical application to encourage and inspire readers. Ashleigh lives in Atlanta with her husband, Ted, and four daughters.

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Reshaping It All: Chapter 14

by Ashleigh Slater time to read: 3 min