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Taking More than a Bullet: Life and Death for Others

We might never take a bullet for those we love, but we can daily seek to give up our desires, preferences, and plans.

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Jennifer Napier



It is the sworn duty of a secret service agent protecting the president. It is the ultimate expression of romantic love. Parents hold this in their hearts for their children.

“I would die for you.”

When it came down to it, we would be willing to put ourselves in harms way to protect and save our child, our spouse, our closest friends. How beautiful to make the greatest sacrifice!

But what about daily life? Are we willing to sacrifice ourselves in the midst of the daily drudgery – monotonous, mundane, and maddening?

Are we willing to put aside washing dishes and laundry to attend to the tugging on our “apron strings”? Are we wiling to put aside our wishes for the day to do what God has unexpectedly put before us? Can we refrain from sharing our most recent success when our friend needs us to listen to her latest marital plight?

I don’t know what it is to actually give my literal life for someone else but I have the choice everyday to lay down my own cravings and agendas and instead love and care for others. Jesus tells us in John 15:3 that, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.”

Laying down our lives is an arduous task at times. It fills me with dread just thinking about it. Some days I feel like I’ve already given up so much; everything I have.

There are times with my five little ones that I feel like I have nothing left to give. I feel worn out. Lord, how can I lay down my life when I feel this exhausted?

Here’s the good news. We are not in this alone. We are not parenting alone. We are not loving our spouses, our neighbors, our friends by ourselves. God is with us! He gives us the strength we need and He’s faithful to love us even when our best efforts fail.

We might never take a bullet for those we love, but we seek to give up our lives: our desires, preferences, plans. We need the Holy Spirit to lead us and give us strength. He is in this with us, sisters! Do not lose hope.

Jesus gave up His life for us and now lives to intercede. Following Him leads us to die little deaths that require us to keep living and dying to ourselves, pick up our cross, pick up the floor, pick up dirty clothes. Pray for our children, our spouse, their safety, our sanity. We press on in hope.

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Jennifer Napier is a new resident of Norfolk, VA where she and her husband are part of growing a new church. Her recent decision to throw all caution to the wind and jump into home schooling all five of her precocious but precious children has left many alternately applauding her bravery and questioning her sanity. She is an avid reader and writer and enjoys long soaks in the tub and sweet iced tea. She can often be found with her children at the zoo, a thrift store or in a doctors office as she manages the special needs of her kids. Though a Christian since she was five Jennifer has continued to grow in a deeper understanding of God’s grace and love. She continues to proclaim God’s faithfulness in the midst of many years of trial, suffering, loss and grief. Her primary goal in life is to know God and make Him known. You can follow her adventures and thoughts on God, life, and motherhood at her blog, Musings by Jennifer

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Taking More than a Bullet: Life and Death for Others

by Jennifer Napier time to read: 2 min