Your eyes are red and swollen. You’re numb. You have no fight left in you.
You didn’t ask for this. In fact, you’ve prayed so hard and so long for God to spare you of this that you have no tears left, no words left to say. Your prayers feel like they go no higher than the ceiling. God feels very far away.
Whatever it may be: divorce, sickness, financial crises, a battle you’re waging … you’re spent and you have nothing left to give.
Well-meaning friends and family only make you feel worse.
Are you looking for a way out? Do you just want the pain to end? Do you just want it all to go away?
Sweet friend, I can’t tell you that your problems will be gone tomorrow, next week, or even next year, but I can tell you that God is right in the middle of it all.
I can hold your hand and assure you that your every tear is held in His hands. And the thing is … you don’t even have to believe me. You don’t have to take my word for it.
Disregard that I have been there. Forget that I have laid on the floor, crying out to God, asking Him to let me go to sleep and never again wake up. Look past the experience I have with feeling abused, alone, and abandoned.
Because, God Himself tells you what you need to hear:
“They [His mercies] are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” Lamentations 3:23
God sees you. God loves you and He will never leave you. He knows what you are going through and will help you through it.
“In a desert land He found him, in a barren and howling waste. He shielded him and cared for him; He guarded him as the apple of His eye.” Deuteronomy 32:10
“I waited patiently for the LORD; He inclined to me and heard my cry. He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog, and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure. He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God. Many will see and fear, and put their trust in the Lord.” Psalm 40:1-3
In the midst of your pain, in the middle of your struggle, cling with everything in you to the promises God has made to you. There will certainly be times when you feel alone, but even when you feel like you have nothing left to give, remind yourself that the God of the Universe, the King of kings, the God who parted the Red Sea, and raised Lazarus from the dead, created you with a purpose.
Even when the storms are raging and it’s so unclear what God has in mind, we can be certain that He created us for His glory and His purpose. We can rest assured that even if all that is happening is a surprise to us, it isn’t a surprise to God.
“I have said these things to you, that in Me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33
“Friends, when life gets really difficult, don’t jump to the conclusion that God isn’t on the job. Instead, be glad that you are in the very thick of what Christ experienced. This is a spiritual refining process, with glory just around the corner.” 1 Peter 4:12-13, MSG
Raise up your eyes and know that God is with you. He is a God of His Word. He will dry your tears. He will remind you that though this is a difficult time, beyond what you think you can bear, He is here with you and will see you through it.
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You are not alone. You can make it another day. You don’t have to do it alone.
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