Connect with us

Friendship

Zing the Gossiper!

I can’t be a disciple — or at least not a good one — unless I’m able to let things go, and forgive, and not care what people think about me.

Published

on

So, it turns out, gossip hurts my feelings just as much at age 36 as it did at age 16.

And 26, and 6, and every other number I’ve ever been.

Someone’s untruths about me really stung this week. In response, I plotted my revenge (which included public proof of my innocence), and I rehearsed a few witty lines to zing the gossiper into remorse. Then, with my plans all made and almost as an afterthought, I asked my husband Andy his opinion.

“What do you think I should do?” I asked.

I meant, “What do you think I should do … to get her back? To prove my innocence? To defend myself?”

He must’ve misunderstood the question.

“I think,” he said slowly, “that you should let it go, and forgive, and not care what people think about you.”

Oh, who asked him, anyway?

The truth is, Andy lets things go all the time. All. The. Time. You can’t be a pastor—or at least not a good one—unless you’re able to let things go. Just this week, I’ve seen Andy take unfair criticism, without defending himself, and then turn right around and love his critics. Several months ago, when a particularly ungracious woman maligned him, I watched Andy literally kneel beside our bed and pray God’s best for her. This is the man I married, and I love his maturity and grace and forgiveness.

But oh, I’d rather not emulate them! I’d rather win, and prove my rightness! I’d rather write a blog post that zings the gossiper! Lord, I’d rather do just about anything else than let it go, and forgive, and not care what people think about me.

And yet, isn’t that exactly what Jesus would do? Aren’t those the very things that Jesus instructed … and then, demonstrated, all the way to His death?

I can’t be a disciple—or at least not a good one—unless I’m able to let things go, and forgive, and not care what people think about me. I need God’s divine power for this. I want to be found faithful and to be gracious to others because He has been gracious to me.

Lord, help me forgive my friend, not zing the gossiper.

Amy Storms is a wife, mom, and writer in Joplin, Missouri. An Oklahoma girl at heart, she lives with her pastor-husband Andy, their kids Nathan, Anne, and Molly, and about a hundred other "sons" in a dorm at her beloved alma mater, Ozark Christian College. Along with guacamole and Dr. Pepper, words are some of her very favorite things. She loves to read words, craft them on the page, and, of course, say them. Too many of them.

Welcome to Ungrind!

Do you want to be inspired, motivated, and equipped to live the everyday story of your life well?

If so, you’re in the right place. Whether you need encouragement in your relationships or in your faith, I hope you’ll find the transparent voices of mentors and friends here at Ungrind.

So, grab a cup of coffee and keep reading. We're so glad you're here!

Ashleigh Slater, Founder & Managing Editor

Get Our Free Ebook!

Sign up to receive weekly emails from Ungrind and you’ll get the free ebook, Better Together. Be encouraged by stories of hope from women just like you!

Latest Articles

What Women Are Saying

"Thank you for having me as your guest... Awesome design, awesome content, awesome website!!!"

-- Darlene Schacht, author of Messy Beautiful Love: Hope and Redemption for Real-Life Marriages and co-author of Reshaping it All: Motivation for Spiritual and Physical Fitness

Featured Resource

"Real life is not always pleasant. Every marriage experiences disappointments, misunderstandings, sickness and financial crisis. Ashleigh doesn’t camouflage the pain in her own marriage, and offers practical ideas on how to walk through the difficulties and find intimacy on the journey. If you are anything like me, I predict that as you read, you too will find yourself laughing, wiping tears, and saying 'Oh, yes.'"

-- Gary Chapman, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The 5 Love Languages

Disclosure

We are a member of the Amazon affiliate program and regularly use affiliate links. If you purchase an item from an Amazon link we provide, we will receive a small referral commission. This doesn’t cost you anything additional. We only share books, music, and products that our writers personally have used and highly recommend.

Trending

Do NOT follow this link or you will be banned from the site!

Zing the Gossiper!

by Amy Storms time to read: 1 min